How to Soulbond Tutorial

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This was originally shared to Twitter on 07/18/2025, it is being x-posted here.

✨HOW TO SOULBOND TUTORIAL✨
or, How to connect w/ a potential soulbond by WinreyPlace

 

⚠️DISCLAIMER⚠️ You cannot force a soulbond to bond with you. They're living, independent, autonomous beings, and that means they have a choice. There's a risk they'll say no, and if they aren't interested, respect it and Move. On. Got that? Okay, good, let's proceed.
Got that? Okay, good, let's proceed.

1. It All Starts with "Bond Feels".

You know that stirring in your heart & soul, that deep, urgent emotional pull towards a "character"? That's what I like to call "bond feels". It's not just liking them or choosing them as a favorite; it's something more intense. Experiencing "bond feels" can be a sign that you're a good match, because having these feelings can make it easier for them to connect with you. As for what causes "bond feels", it's different for everyone.

2. Treat this Seriously

A soulbond is a real relationship—platonic, familial, romantic, or otherwise. It involves caring for and supporting each other, just like in any healthy relationship. It's important to communicate, set boundaries, compromise, be compassionate, be understanding, and be open. Soulbonds aren't dolls; they're independent people with their own lives, opinions, personalities, and relationships.
You might want to consider things such as:

• Are your lifestyles compatible?
• Can they be understanding of you (or are you willing to be patient if they aren't at first)?
• Could they be open to this kind of relationship?

If you're still sure after thinking it through, continue to the next step.

3. Learn More About Them & Get in Tune

Revisit their canon; consume fan content that feels "accurate"; think about how they'd react in any given situation. The idea is to learn as much as possible about the version you want to bond with—"The Knowing", as I call it—so you're more in tune when you reach out to the real person.

4. Reach Out

Once you're confident in "The Knowing", try reaching out. You can write a letter introducing yourself and explain why you're contacting them, visualize a beacon signaling a way for them to find you (or whatever visualization works best for you), or simply say "Hello, [X]?", aloud or in your mind. Try to think of or mention things related to them. Whatever you do, make sure you're focused and clearly projecting your "bond feels" and your understanding of them. You might get a reply right away, or it might take some time, but if you don't get anything, it doesn't mean they rejected you!

4A. You didn't get a response

Don't be discouraged. Not getting a response doesn't automatically mean they're saying no. They could've not felt or heard your message, or it could've confused them or made them think they're going crazy. Maybe they tried to respond but were blocked from doing so, possibly by your own doubts or fears. Whatever the reason, just keep trying—send signals, write letters, and focus more. Be sure you explain who you are, what's going on, and what soulbonding is, as they might need more info before they're comfortable responding. Talk to them freely: share about your day, what they mean to you, ask them questions—anything to spark a connection.

4B. How do you know you got a response?

A response can manifest in a few ways:

• Sensing a presence alongside yours
• Hearing another voice in your consciousness that feels like them
• Nonverbal communication through images, emotions, impressions, or memories
• Phantom touches
• Appearances or messages within dreams
• Synchronicities

Trust that any impression or voice that distinctly feels like them is them. It may be weak or uncertain at first—you might find it hard to stay connected in your mind—but just keep engaging. Trust the process, yourself, and them. If you worry you're faking or going crazy, ask them about it. In my experience, they're quick to protest or reassure.

5. You did get a response

Don't freak out! This is what you wanted. Trust that if you're properly in tune (The Knowing), you can be confident it's them, not you making it up or something else. Once you're sure it's them communicating, you might need to explain more (unless you're lucky enough to have connected with someone who knew you previously, which can happen!). Except in rare cases when the connection just happens instantly upon meeting, you'll need to ask them directly if they want to soulbond with you. Treat this seriously (see #2) and make sure they understand what soulbonding would mean. If they agree, great! Continue building your relationship: get to know each other, develop closeness, and make an effort. But if they freak out and disappear or flat-out say "No", accept it gracefully. Remember, you cannot force a soulbond, and no means no. If it helps any, a potential soulbond has never turned me down without at least a trial run.

 

Things to keep in mind -

• Soulbonds aren't like hallucinations—they're consistent, can carry on a conversation, want to be treated like a person, and have their own preferences/opinions. They shouldn't direct you to do harmful things or make you distrust yourself, outerworld people, or your surroundings. "Hearing" them will be more like an inner monologue, just one that feels or sounds like them. Likewise, you should only see them in your "mind's eye" (if you have one).
• A potential soulbond may be grumpy, bratty, mean, mocking, or insulting, but it should match up with their personality (i.e. a villain or anti-hero might be on the harsher side). If their behavior makes you uncomfortable or upset, set firm boundaries and ask them to stop or leave. If they only make you feel miserable, it's not a soulbond; it's a manifestation of negativity that should be addressed therapeutically.
• You aren't "doing it wrong" if your soulbond doesn't communicate with words at first, all the time, or ever—there are many good ways to connect and communicate no matter where your relationship is at.
• Connecting with a potential soulbond can be instant or take up to several months. Be patient and don't give up! Sometimes the circumstances just need to be right. As long as you haven't received a no, there's still a chance.